3 Ways To Ask For Help As A Mom

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Why is asking for help so hard? A mom has to be strong for everyone. In the beginning after she's given birth, it's impossible for her to be that person that does it all for everyone, as well as for herself. There should not be shame in asking for help, but unfortunately, there is. You see, as a mom, there are certain things that ring in our ears. “Welcome to parenthood!” “That’s just part of being a mom.” “Suck it up - you have eighteen years of this!” ...and more. We hear so much about “this is what you signed up for,” that a lot of moms become ashamed of needing help, and therefore, they do not ask.
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In addition, a lot of the time, the mom wants to be the one to fully bond with her child and do her "mommy due diligence." One thing that she probably never thought of prior to having her baby is that she also needs care. It is hard to think about yourself when you have an innocent baby (or child) that needs your attention basically 24/7.

Keep in mind, however. There are people around you who are rallying for you. They would be happy if you asked them for help. Some people will inevitably drop the ball because life events come up (especially during this year!!). But as you are waiting for your village, have some resources on-hand. A mom asking for help should not be taboo and the sooner you realize that help is a good thing (and you are not doing anything wrong by asking for it), the sooner that your motherhood journey becomes that much sweeter.

Here are 3 ways to ask for help as a mom so that you can also help yourself:

Hire It Out
Sometimes, asking for “free” help can be intimidating. If that sounds like you, hire it out instead. Do you need help with the kids? Hire a babysitter! Sites like Care and Sittercity are great starting places. Do you need help with a service? Find a reputable company that will take away your stress, take something off your plate, and free up time. For example, if you are moving, do a quick search to find a great company that can give you a NJ moving quote. New Jersey Transport Inc. Moving Company is a great local company that not only has great reviews, but also is committed to customer service and quality of service. They say that they are the most reliable and reputable moving company in the NE & you can see that it is true based on their reviews. They provide services such as local moving, long distance moving, auto transport, packing & crating, and more. As a mom, you need help and if you do not have family around, hire out the help to make it stress-free and easy for you!

Start With The People You Feel Most Comfortable With
First, ask yourself who might be able to help you do each task that you need help with, and then make a list. Is there a neighborhood teen who would love to earn a few bucks after school dusting, vacuuming, doing dishes, and walking the dog? Or even a friend’s older child who could help with math homework? Is there a family member that could play with the baby while you get work done? Once you have your list pulled together, start with the people you feel most comfortable with first. Do you have a sibling that you can always go to, asking for help? What about parents, or a spouse? A best friend? No matter what your individual life situation looks like, there is always someone that you can ask. Starting with the people who you feel most comfortable with is a great way to break the ice when it comes to asking for help. Once you feel comfortable with those people who are closest to you, you can branch out to others.

Accept Offers Of Help
When you make your list, try to recall anyone who has offered their help up to you. Go back to them and say something along the lines of, “Hi! I know that you offered to help me ___ (or with ____) a few months ago. Does that offer still stand? I am really struggling with ____ and I would love to have an extra hand, if you are available.” Accepting an offer is also a fantastic starting place because you do not have to ask out of nowhere. You have an easy in.

Know That Asking For Help Is Courageous
After reading through the above three tips, if you are still struggling when it comes to asking for help, read through other blog posts or articles on ways to ask for help as a mom. In addition, know that asking for help takes courage and it makes you STRONG doing so. It can be really, really hard asking for help, so when you do, you are getting out of your comfort zone and doing great things that will only benefit yourself and your kid(s). Know that and maybe it will help you ask when you do need help.